Learning to be alone after a breakup-Loving YOU enough to have dinner with yourself.

“I think it’s good for a person to spend time alone. It gives them an opportunity to discover who they are and to figure out why they are always alone.”- Amy Sedaris
Society these days gives you this sense that you need to be surrounded by people all the time and that you must be in a constant relationship,but do you ever wonder what it is like to be alone?

Do you ever wonder who you are without so many people around you or having a significant other?

These past few weeks have been nothing, but a life lesson.  I have spent the last 6 years of my life surrounded by someone and before that, all I ever did was date. I never knew what it felt like to be alone.  I always had someone in my life, and I had started to forget who I was and what I liked.  I stopped doing the things I loved and started to just settling with what was.

Slowly now that I am alone, I am remembering who I was and I am starting to do those things I enjoy. I am starting to love myself again, which is something I haven’t done in a very long time.


I turn on candles every single day.  It makes me feel so sexy.
I play music, sing, and dance all day.
On the days I do not have my kid, I eat alone. I have never ate alone before.
I have slowed down.
I am back to my exercise routine.
I am eating well again.
I am more patient.
I am working on my passion.
I am READING. This one is big because I hate to read and I can never sit down and focus, but I have started again and it has been something that has been helping me so much the last few weeks.

It sounds crazy, but when you’re in a relationship for so long, you lose sight of who you are and what you want in life and I am extremely happy that I am able to find that happiness again.

It isn’t easy, it takes time, but slowly we will all get there.


So if you recently got out of relationship, take your time to get back into the game. Learn who you are and what you like. Date yourself. Take yourself out to a fancy dinner. Grab a bottle of wine and sit at the park and read a book. Go exercise alone. Start a conversation with a stranger. Sit at a bar and buy yourself a drink. Go buy yourself something pretty.

Always, Jasandra

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