Who says you can’t?

7d425f356f22bc7a351dfb0d0b145b37--brave-quotes-new-quotes I think it took me about 2 hours to write this blog out… I still have no idea what the fuck I want to write about, but here I am… Because I can…  So lately I have found myself struggling with a few changes going on in my life which is why I have been pretty absent.

Let me ask you a question right now.  How many times have you been so excited to tell someone a goal you have, fo them to turn around and give you the stank eye with the whole “That is going to be hard. It’s going to take time.  You’ll need to be dedicated. You won’t have a life”. That shit hits you in the feels the moment you hear it and the doubts you didn’t have, start strolling in.  You start to question yourself.  You start to wonder if this goal is attainable.  You start to panic. I mean can you really accomplish all your goals? My answer to you is yes, but I’m going to be real for a quick second here.  Thats been me lately, the person that gets told its going to be so hard and I won’t achieve my goals… I’ve listened to the negative words people have said to me, and I’ve stepped back from my goals.

Yet here I am today, a day where I called in sick because I’ve been awake since 3am vomiting my heart away.  You know what I’ve done all day? Lay in bed and think. Think about my goals.  The accomplishments I have had.  Ive watched Sex and the City and resonated with some of the ladies because they too (tv show or not) can relate to my experiences. What that fuck have we been doing ladies?  We have been letting other people determine the outcome of OUR lives.  That shit needs to stop right now.  I know for a fact that I, plus many of you ladies have tons of goals.  A new job, a new relationship, a new house, to lose weight, to write a book, to open a blog, to open your own business… We all have those goals, but we need to stop being afraid of success.

not-caringWhy is success such a scary subject?  You know why? Because it’s not easy getting there and it comes with a lot of work, a lot of dedications, a lot of late night, a lot more work and a whole lot of less play.  Shit, I’m wiring this and thinking about all the little things I need to do for my coaching business.  I feel so lost, but these days there’s so many help and so many other people who won’t be negative about you wanting to succeed.  It’s not easy, but can you imagine if we never quit the first 500 times where we would be right now? Probably a lot closer to success then we currently are.

So who gives a fuck if you lose a few friends, who cares if you have to stay in longer, who cares if people tell you its going to be hard… Prove them wrong.. Better yet Prove yourself wrong and soar babe.

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Don’t hide the madness that is you. Live authentically true to yourself.

“ Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide the madness.”– Allen Ginsberg

As I sit here this evening looking towards the future, I find my mind wandering back to my past and it makes me happy to see how far I have come in my 32 years of life.  You see growing up wasn’t always the easiest.  My whole life I have been known as the girl with the scabs on her legs, the girl who was overweight, the girl who wasn’t popular, and the girl who would never amount to anything.  These were all the things I was called during my school days. which don’t get me wrong, it fucken sucked, but it also shaped me to be who I am today.

67feb52b2af25ce2de6ba172679de7cdI have always been the kind of girl who played my own beat to my own my music and a lot of people dislike that. My family hated it.  They wanted me to be different. Skinnier, more by the books, you know.. Well guess what I am not that person and it has taken me a very long time to realize and accept that and guess what I am happy with who I am today January 2nd, 2017!

Even this past weekend when I was in Miami my grandmother called me “fat.” It truly never changes when I visit, but this time it got me right in the feels (could have been some of the red wine I had that didn’t help.) Not because it hurt me, but because that is when I realized that some people suck and that when I look in the mirror I see someone smart and beautiful and its a shame some people don’t see that too and define me by how I look or don’t look. Not to mention that in the past year I have lost over 40 pounds.

It has taken me many years, many self-help books, and many chats with myself to be the strong woman I am today. I roll with the punches.  If I am not happy, I will go find happiness. That goes for a job, my relationships, my friendships and truly anything in my life.   I am loud.  I am bonkers.  I curse like a sailor. I don’t have a filter.  I am honest to the core which sometimes sucks, but I am real and I will never change that.  If you hurt me, I will tell you.  If I like you, I will tell you.  If I fall in love with you, I will tell you.  If I am not happy, I will tell you.  If I hate my job, I will find another one.  If you don’t make time for me, I wont make time for you, but with that I am also the kindest, most loving, most loyal, most caring person you will ever meet.

diva2.gifWith this I tell you… Keep being yourself. Don’t ever change for anyone because you are the only you there needs to be. Some people will not be your cup of tea and vice versa and guess what? That is totally okay. Stand up for yourself. Don’t let anyone bully you or talk to you in a manner that is disrespectful to you.  Don’t let anyone treat you less than you deserve and always follow your dreams.  Fight for you and fight for what you believe in and always, but ALWAYS dance to the beat of your own drum.

Always, Jasandra

Creating a positive space in your life.

“You can’t make positive choices for the rest of your life without an environment that makes those choices easy, natural, and enjoyable.” — Deepak Chopra

a2b236dcd5e02b76dee4a5e41d310266Here I am sitting in my office (and by office I mean my room.  Where I sit at my tiny little white Ikea desk, listening to Coldplay, with my lit soy candle, 3 self motivational books, and my Jasmine tea.)  It’s where I feel myself these days and I am not ashamed of it.

I have been living in negativity for a while now, and of course it is my fault, but over the weekend and this past month I have had some sort of revelation and I have been working very hard to get myself into a positive mindset and I only have been able to do this with an amazing group of friends, an amazing Facebook page, and my own fucking self.

So if you have been negative, down on yourself, or just pretty much hating everything this blog is aimed towards you!

STEP 1 is to GET THE FUCK OUT OF THAT FUNK and START to LIVE YOUR LIFE.

Here is what has helped me during this journey and hopefully it can help you some.

1.  unnamedDo you have a safe place? Somewhere where you feel like yourself. Somewhere you can be you and no one is watching? If not, then get one. Hence my Ikea desk.  It is small, it is not made of the best wood in the world, I hit my head while building it, but when I sit on my hand me down chair I feel like myself.  I feel like I am worth something. Go ahead and right now stand up and find a small space in your house that you can make yours. Throw some pillows, a blanket, a scented candle, and some books, and let this be the place you come to when you need to center yourself.

2. If you are like me you spend a lot of time on Social media and don’t let anyone give you a hard time for that. Social media is the shit and will be the future of all futures so get on that shit and create your dreams. First though you must delete any negativity. This is a place you check in so often so you need to make it something positive. I recently had to delete a few folks, unfollow a few friends, and join some motivational groups.  Trust me it helps. So go through your newsfeed and unfollow any fucker that makes you feel like shit, or doesn’t uplift you. Go ahead and now join a group that will inspire you, that will make you want to be a better person. I recently did this and you have no idea how amazing it feels to log into my social media and see people lifting others up and not bringing them down. TRUST me on this one!

3. As for real life? Do the same shit.  If someone isn’t making you happy or isn’t making you feel like you are GOD then delete them from your life. Family, friends, acquaintances, it doesn’t matter. Bye Felicia. We don’t have time for this shit and we definitely don’t have time for the drama and negativity so bye girl bye. Keep a small circle of friends that love you and ill always lift you up.

4. STOP right now and go to Amazon and get yourself some motivational self-help books. TRUST ME. They save your life, make you a better person, and inspire you to do anything your little heart desires. A few books I love and read over and over again are #girlboss by Sophia Amoruso, Girl Code and The Champagne Diet by the amazing Cara Alwill Leyba, and I am that Girl by Alexis Jones.  These books are little daily reminders that I am amazing and I can achieve anything I put my mind to.

5. EXERCISE and EAT RIGHT. Nothing is worse than treating your body like shit and not fueling it with the right tools to survive. You can’t be successful or happy if you’re stuffing your face with cheese burgers every day. I am not kidding here guys (as I take my hand out of the kettle corn popcorn bag) indulging once in a while is great, but take care of you. It’s not expensive trust me I am a single mom on a budget and I eat right and exercise 3-5 days a week. It is doable, so stop the bullshit excuses.

cb2155f0f78c4a497fa296440aa586eb6. What song currently is your life? Mine would be “Something in the Water” by Carrie Underwood (which BTW I am seeing her in concert this Wednesday and I couldn’t be happier). Music cures all things. It has taken me out of the darkest situations, but has blessed me with the greatest memories. So when you’re sad find a playlist that will make you happy, but when you feel like crying, put on some Adele, grab some tissues, and cry your eyes out. It is okay to feel sad and cry, it doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human.

7. Go out on a date with yourself. Buy yourself that dress, those heels, and  go out to a nice restaurant or bar and buy yourself a drink. You are amazing. You are beautiful. You are ENOUGH.

8. Last… BE authentically you.  Nothing makes you live in sadness and negativity than hiding your true self.  I want to learn about you. The real you and so does the world. So stop hiding from everyone and stop being afraid of what people will think because if you surround yourself with good people they will love you for YOU!

As you can see these are all super easy things you can do on a daily basis to lift yourself and your life up, but you have to follow them. I can tell you a million and one things, but like anything, you have to be willing to step forward and do them.  I have learned that life is way too short to not live it happy and negative free. It is not easy, but it is worth it.

Share below any tips you might have to live a more positive uplifting life.

Always,
Jasandra

What I have learned this past week.

Its been a week since I got my own apartment and started this new journey in my life and I have to say that day 1 was rough, and a lot of tears were shed.  Some were happy tears and some were very sad tears.  I don’t know about you, but when I am alone my mind just races and I start to think about every single thing possible.  You sit down when you’re alone and you start to reflect on your past and see everything that you thought you worked so hard for, just go right out of the window. I mean at least this was my situation this past week.

This week has given me a lot of time to focus on me and focus on my daughter.  To stay clear of the phone when I am with her, unless its to get some adorable pictures of her because guys… That smile of hers is just pure perfection, but seriously though, its given me this bond with her this past week that was just…perfect.  I feel like before I was so caught up with the stress of life that I wasnt paying as much attention to her as I should and that I regret, but I am grateful I have so much time to make up for it.

One of the many things I learned this week is that Savannah very much felt the stress I was feeling.  When we were back “home” with daddy, she was a different child.  Acting up, hitting at school, not listening, giving us a hard time to go to bed, and just being plain old grumpy.  While I know that is normal with kids, it was not a normal thing for our kid, because she never acted like that. Move forward to this week, we have out little girl back.  It’s like all the stress I had, she had, and the moment I moved out, she was relieved.

Another thing I learned this week was that I am non stop and I do not know when to stop and smell the roses. Listen I know im like that, but this week I didn’t have anyone reminding me but myself and man my ass is go-go go. I don’t know how many times I mopped this floor, how many times I cleaned the bathroom, and how many times I threw the trash away. Maybe I am a voiding something.. Who knows, but I am exhausted from just writing this.  I just like a clean house..right?

Groceries… It’s so much cheaper when it’s just two people and mind you, one of them is a toddler. I sat down planned my meals and the meals I’ll make when little bits is here and my fridge still looks empty, yet it’s filled with pre-made food that I cooked for the entire week! Hello I say that is a win in itself and the bill at Trader Joes for the week was well.. 4o BUCKS. $$$$ in the pocket baby.

What else can I bore you with that I learned this week???

I like to be alone. Is that weird? Like I love living alone with my kid, but when she isn’t here with me and she is with her daddy, I enjoy the peace and quiet. I enjoy reading my book in silence with some tea or coffee, but I also love blasting the music and dancing in my underwear all Tom Cruise style.. Except I don’t have his moves..

tumblr_m948uxai211r2r0koo1_500As I go onto this new week, it excited me with all the changes and all the new things I am going to learn about myself again.  Feeling lost and feeling like you don’t even know yourself is hard as fuck and it truly sucks, but I am very positive that the outcome will be great and I’ll fall in love all over with myself, because let’s be honest for a second…  You need to learn to live with yourself and love yourself first before you can ever find happiness.

Hugs and kisses folks..

Always,
Jasandra

“Healthier” Broccoli/Quinoa Casserole for the WIN!

OH MY GOD. So I am always looking for something new to make because eating healthy doesn’t have to be boring and my ass does not and will not each salad every single day.

So I took my meal planning very seriously last week and wanted something fun. I cam up with tons of fun stuff, but this one was by far my favorite and a new one that we will be using more often than not.

With that being said, I am no professional photographer so my photos are taken by my phone so suck it up buttercup and just make this recipe because its golden!

Ingredients ( Click on the link for what I use)

  • 1 cup quinoa ( I get mine at Aldi because its like a buck and includes brown rice, I also dont use the seasoning it comes with because its too much Salt.)
  • 1 head broccoli, cut into florets and finely chopped (I buy this one at Sams for like 3 bucks)
  • 2 tablespoon olive oil, divided ( I used this coconut oil from Sams club, like 20 bucks and last me forever)
  • 1/3 cup Panko
  • 3 boneless, skinless thin-sliced chicken breasts
  • Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper, to taste ( I used Himalayan salt)
  • 2 tablespoons unsalted butter ( I used Kerrygold grass-fed butter)
  • 2 tablespoons all-purpose flour ( I usually would use coconut flour or almond flour, but ran out)
  • 2 cups 2% milk ( I used Cashew unsweetened milk)
  • 1 1/2 cups shredded cheddar cheese, divided
  • 1/3 cup Greek yogurt

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Instructions

  • Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. Lightly oil an 9×13 baking dish or coat with nonstick spray.
  • In a large saucepan of 2 cups water, cook quinoa according to package instructions. Within the last 5 minutes of cooking time, add broccoli on top and steam until cooked through.
  • Heat 1 tablespoon coconut oil a large skillet over medium high heat. Add Panko and cook, stirring, until browned and toasted, about 3 minutes; set aside. I left it a little longer because i wanted it really crispy. I even added some Parmesan cheese for more taste.
  • Heat remaining 1 tablespoon coconut oil in the skillet. Season chicken breasts with salt and pepper, to taste. Add to skillet and cook, flipping once, until cooked through, about 3-4 minutes per side. Let cool before dicing into bite-size pieces; set aside. I buy my chickens at Sams club so this is actually one chicken and half another one because I pound them and then slice in half. It save some money and I get more chicken this way for the week.

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  • Melt butter in the skillet over medium heat. Whisk in flour until lightly browned, about 1 minute. Gradually whisk in Cashew milk, and cook, whisking constantly, until slightly thickened, about 3-4 minutes. Stir in quinoa, broccoli, chicken, 1 cup cheese and Greek yogurt; season with salt and pepper, to taste. Keep mixing once you’re here to make sure you incorporate everything together as you don’t want one part tasting different from another. It’s also super gooey and delicious because of the roux you make.

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okay so STOP.  Please make sure if you have kids that you incorporate them safely into helping you make meals.  They love it, they learn, and you get to share this with your family and the memories last a lifetime.  Also they will steal some of the food. So be very careful 🙂IMG_5313

  • Spread broccoli mixture into the prepared baking dish/ I sprinkled it with some Panko on the bottom as well as some coconut oil spray; sprinkle with remaining 1/2 cup cheese. Place into oven and bake until cheese has melted, about 5 minutes.

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Serve immediately, let it cool for the little ones, sprinkle with more panko and enjoy the heck out of it without the guilt.

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Please please let me know if you try it and what you think of it.

Adapted from: www.Damndelicious.net 

Always, Jasandra

From hot mess to organized.

I do not know about you, but my life is hectic.  I wake up every morning Monday through Friday at 4:30am to get my workout in, then come home while it is still quiet and get myself ready before the day starts for everyone. Meanwhile the little one is stopping her feet  whining because she doesn’t want to wear what I laid out, the dogs are barking to be let out, and my husband is making total zombie noises as he makes our coffee.  Off to work we go for a full day and by the time we leave work, I go get the diva, we get home, let the dogs out, make dinner, do baths, read stories, put her to bed, and spend time with the each other (the husband and I) when in the heck do we have any time to clean. I can confidently say that mornings and evenings at the Hopp residence are not pretty.

My house is a hot mess pretty much everyday, but then again too many memories are being made and I would rather make those then clean the house.  I mean let’s be real, I personally hate cleaning so I will find any excuse not to do it.  I can hire cleaning companies to do that, and I have, and although I love having them clean, I have a 900 square foot house and feel incompetent having someone else do my chores for me.

So as an unorganized slob, I went on Pinterest to see what other hot mess moms have come up with in the cleaning department. Viola! There was a template for what you should clean each day. Hells to the yea. This girl needs a list. This girl needs to see something. This girl needs to be tamed. I am a total list girl and my husband can vouch for that. I take a list every single place we go. Literally, every single place I take one and scratch off each thing I have done.

So here is this cool little photo I found and its perfect for me since it lays it all out exactly how I would want it.image1.JPG

I started this week and so far its going great.  Once I pick up Savannah from school, I head home and start cleaning.  The best part is we share it together so she helps me out and sometimes shows me how its done. I tell you this little girl is going to be one strong woman.

So any other hot mess families struggle with cleaning and organizing? What has helped you along the way?

Share your tips in the comments and share this blog, I know a lot of other families would love any advice or tips.

Thanks for stopping.

Always, Jasandra