Who says you can’t?

7d425f356f22bc7a351dfb0d0b145b37--brave-quotes-new-quotes I think it took me about 2 hours to write this blog out… I still have no idea what the fuck I want to write about, but here I am… Because I can…  So lately I have found myself struggling with a few changes going on in my life which is why I have been pretty absent.

Let me ask you a question right now.  How many times have you been so excited to tell someone a goal you have, fo them to turn around and give you the stank eye with the whole “That is going to be hard. It’s going to take time.  You’ll need to be dedicated. You won’t have a life”. That shit hits you in the feels the moment you hear it and the doubts you didn’t have, start strolling in.  You start to question yourself.  You start to wonder if this goal is attainable.  You start to panic. I mean can you really accomplish all your goals? My answer to you is yes, but I’m going to be real for a quick second here.  Thats been me lately, the person that gets told its going to be so hard and I won’t achieve my goals… I’ve listened to the negative words people have said to me, and I’ve stepped back from my goals.

Yet here I am today, a day where I called in sick because I’ve been awake since 3am vomiting my heart away.  You know what I’ve done all day? Lay in bed and think. Think about my goals.  The accomplishments I have had.  Ive watched Sex and the City and resonated with some of the ladies because they too (tv show or not) can relate to my experiences. What that fuck have we been doing ladies?  We have been letting other people determine the outcome of OUR lives.  That shit needs to stop right now.  I know for a fact that I, plus many of you ladies have tons of goals.  A new job, a new relationship, a new house, to lose weight, to write a book, to open a blog, to open your own business… We all have those goals, but we need to stop being afraid of success.

not-caringWhy is success such a scary subject?  You know why? Because it’s not easy getting there and it comes with a lot of work, a lot of dedications, a lot of late night, a lot more work and a whole lot of less play.  Shit, I’m wiring this and thinking about all the little things I need to do for my coaching business.  I feel so lost, but these days there’s so many help and so many other people who won’t be negative about you wanting to succeed.  It’s not easy, but can you imagine if we never quit the first 500 times where we would be right now? Probably a lot closer to success then we currently are.

So who gives a fuck if you lose a few friends, who cares if you have to stay in longer, who cares if people tell you its going to be hard… Prove them wrong.. Better yet Prove yourself wrong and soar babe.

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From lost to found…

Gosh guys… Do you ever sit down and wonder what you were doing this time a few years back?  It’s so funny how things change, life changes, friends change, YOU change.  I remember clearly what I was doing in Miami a few years back.

Most likely drinking, having sex in random spots, and just being a hot mess with no goals and no respect for myself.  Listen I am pretty blunt and open about my life and one thing my husband appreciates it my honesty.  You’ll never get the sugar shit overload version, I am all, but real over here guys.

Jasandra then….

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Without a doubt you would always find me with a cigarette, some weed, or a drink in my hand.  It was my life.  No boyfriends, no responsibilities, just work and friends to live life with. I swear I was living the dream..Well at least I thought that. Till I met an ex started drinking and being a wild child.  I lost my job, I lost friends, I lost my ex.  It was hard, it was heartbreaking, I thought I was going to die. Ladies come on you know that “one” true love always hurts the most.

Moving along.. being young is fun.  No responsibility, no attachments, no kids, and you live free to do whatever he hell you want. I miss those days.  Not because I hate my life now because I live a happy life.  My life is exactly what I have always wanted, but me and my husband sit and talk sometimes about the past about our lives before and how we miss not having responsibilities.

You know though, I wont lie and you tell me if I am right. Kids are rough. Kids are tough and being a parent is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do, along with being a wife. Its not all cookies and cream, its all hard work. It takes dedication, It takes communication, it takes falling down and getting back up.

Its the hardest most amazing thing i have ever done in my life and I do not regret one day. not one minute. not one fight. not one bad day because with all the heartaches theres more days of love, laughter, wrestling, giggles, cuddles, sex (can you ever have too much?, vacations, i love yous.

Jasandra now?

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Now… I am married to the love of my life. I have a beautiful daughter who I call my little “miracle.” I have my own health and fitness business helping women be the best version of themselves they can be, amazing supportive friends.  I take care of myself, workout, and teach my family that even though we live on a budget we can still live life the healthy way.  I am happy, healthy, loving, and a changed woman.  I go out with my ladies for out girls night, I go out with my husband on dates ( cant wait for ours tomorrow), we live a life of meaning, a life of support, a life to change the world.

Change is hard.Chard is tough.Change is challenging, but oh man when you aren’t happy with who you are and you make that commitment to change yourself for better… The reward is so much more fulfilling.

So yes..
People can change.
Don’t ever judge a book my its cover.
You don’t know where people come from.
There is always time to be a better version of yourself if you’re not happy.
Stop making excuses and go for it.
Life will happen.

 

Always, Jasandra