Who says you can’t?

7d425f356f22bc7a351dfb0d0b145b37--brave-quotes-new-quotes I think it took me about 2 hours to write this blog out… I still have no idea what the fuck I want to write about, but here I am… Because I can…  So lately I have found myself struggling with a few changes going on in my life which is why I have been pretty absent.

Let me ask you a question right now.  How many times have you been so excited to tell someone a goal you have, fo them to turn around and give you the stank eye with the whole “That is going to be hard. It’s going to take time.  You’ll need to be dedicated. You won’t have a life”. That shit hits you in the feels the moment you hear it and the doubts you didn’t have, start strolling in.  You start to question yourself.  You start to wonder if this goal is attainable.  You start to panic. I mean can you really accomplish all your goals? My answer to you is yes, but I’m going to be real for a quick second here.  Thats been me lately, the person that gets told its going to be so hard and I won’t achieve my goals… I’ve listened to the negative words people have said to me, and I’ve stepped back from my goals.

Yet here I am today, a day where I called in sick because I’ve been awake since 3am vomiting my heart away.  You know what I’ve done all day? Lay in bed and think. Think about my goals.  The accomplishments I have had.  Ive watched Sex and the City and resonated with some of the ladies because they too (tv show or not) can relate to my experiences. What that fuck have we been doing ladies?  We have been letting other people determine the outcome of OUR lives.  That shit needs to stop right now.  I know for a fact that I, plus many of you ladies have tons of goals.  A new job, a new relationship, a new house, to lose weight, to write a book, to open a blog, to open your own business… We all have those goals, but we need to stop being afraid of success.

not-caringWhy is success such a scary subject?  You know why? Because it’s not easy getting there and it comes with a lot of work, a lot of dedications, a lot of late night, a lot more work and a whole lot of less play.  Shit, I’m wiring this and thinking about all the little things I need to do for my coaching business.  I feel so lost, but these days there’s so many help and so many other people who won’t be negative about you wanting to succeed.  It’s not easy, but can you imagine if we never quit the first 500 times where we would be right now? Probably a lot closer to success then we currently are.

So who gives a fuck if you lose a few friends, who cares if you have to stay in longer, who cares if people tell you its going to be hard… Prove them wrong.. Better yet Prove yourself wrong and soar babe.

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Treat. Yo. Self.

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The last few months I have been trying to kill it at the gym and at home with my meals.  Its been difficult to say the least, but in between working, being a mom, side hustling, trying to live a life, I have managed to drop about 7 lbs and I couldn’t be happier.

tumblr_nxczvmoq661uelehno1_400My friend mentioned to me that she was possibly going to buy herself a new purse (I believe that is what it was) when she hit a new goal with her fitness, which made me stop and think about a goal I would want to achieve and a reward I would give myself. Have you ever done this? Sounds super fun and challenging which is always good.

Usually I set a goal and then I am like “Woohoo, I didn’t cheat this week, let me kill my diet during the weekend, with alcohol and a cheat meal in celebration,” and the next thing you know I have gained all the weight back and all my hard work has gone out the window.

So here with my followers I am going to set a goal and a reward for the month.

Come March, since February is practically over my goals will be as follows:

1.  Make it to the gym at least 3-4 days each week.
2. Eat low carb each week and drink 8 glasses of water a day.
3. I currently weight 176 & would like by the end of the month to at least be 170.

This seem like a lot to accomplish in a month, did you think I would make it super easy for myself? Ya’ll should know by now I love a challenge.

My re28bf206ada490688cac82e81e1966a37ward you ask?

A new pair of my favorite Ray Ban Sunglasses that I have been eyeing for a few months now.  If I don’t reach all 5 of my goals by the end of the month then I will have to try again the following month, but if I hit at least 4 out of 5, I will take myself out for a massage or a mani/pedi.

Have you ever used a reward system for your goals? What did you buy? What were your goals for the month?

Whos joining me?

Always, Jasandra

The struggle is real with Muhammad Ali at home!

GettyImages-479933880-E.jpegApparently I have a boxer at home guys! The past week or so we have picked up the nugget from school with complaints of her hitting a child and having as her little friend at school told me “Savannah had a rough rough day.” cutest little kid ever though, but man its embarrassing.

Hello Ms. Jasandra, today Savannah put her hands on someones throat at school—– Good FUCKEN shit what in the hell is going on here!!!!

Now let me start out by saying we DO NOT hit at home.  I have spanked her, but its been a while. I generally steer clear from that although sometimes I have lost my shit and gone psycho on her. Lets be real, we all have been there so keep your judgement to yourself and I blogged about that day a while back.

I dont know if it is the separation between Kevin and I or if she is learning this from someone at school  I know she has been bitten a few times and I dont know if she is just following what she sees.  Its been pretty rough because for the most part she is an awesome kid and although we are being extremely civil at home and nothing has changed, I mean we still eat dinner as a family, we sit down and read books, I mean legit nothing has changed.

I know they say kids are smart and can feel the tension at home even though everything in the outside seems okay, it is just stressful. You know, like if we do not have enough going on, lets just add something else to the table?!!

So the last week or so we have been very strict with her.  YES I know she is only going to be 3, but you do not know my kid,  She is smart and she knows whats up. So I took off her nail polish since I know its one of her favorite things and we sat down and talked. Told her we do not hit, we give hugs and kisses, we listen to our teaches, and we do not follow what other kids do, all while she kept repeating who she hit and why she hit said person.

Sorry in advance if it was your kid that my child put her hands on.

I can say today we had a Popsicle date because she had a great day.  It made me happy. Kids will be kids and little by little I am learning that even if we do great at home and teach her the best we can they will get side tracked and becomes rebels when they want, but as long as we can continue to steer her in the right directions I can honestly say she will not be trying out for the MMA, but possibly a teacher, or even an attorney.  I mean she is great at trying to convince Kevin and I that Haylee our dog was the one that hit Leia our other dog, because there is no way Savannah would of done that.  Shit she might even become an actress in a great drama series because this girl is golden with DRAMA!

no bad kids capital quote.jpgIn all seriousness, she is a toddler. She is going to hit.  She is going to yell.  She is going to become a rebel at times.  Shit I throw fits all the time, but what I need to keep in the back of my mind, is just that…. She is a toddler and has so much emotion she is still learning how to deal with it and I need to learn how to handle it.

Anyways, I am a mom to an almost 3 year old and every single day she takes me on the best roller-coaster ride I have ever been on.  Some days I feel clueless and some days I feel success.

We must be doing something right because although she is in a hitting phase at the moment she is the most caring, loving, extravagant, responsible, honest, passionate, dramatic, polite, animated, open, considerate, smart, and my top favorite is she has the greatest heart I have ever seen.

My mom since the day she was born has said that my kid is special and that she one day will move mountains.

I sure hope so kid!

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Always,
Jasandra

 

From lost to found…

Gosh guys… Do you ever sit down and wonder what you were doing this time a few years back?  It’s so funny how things change, life changes, friends change, YOU change.  I remember clearly what I was doing in Miami a few years back.

Most likely drinking, having sex in random spots, and just being a hot mess with no goals and no respect for myself.  Listen I am pretty blunt and open about my life and one thing my husband appreciates it my honesty.  You’ll never get the sugar shit overload version, I am all, but real over here guys.

Jasandra then….

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Without a doubt you would always find me with a cigarette, some weed, or a drink in my hand.  It was my life.  No boyfriends, no responsibilities, just work and friends to live life with. I swear I was living the dream..Well at least I thought that. Till I met an ex started drinking and being a wild child.  I lost my job, I lost friends, I lost my ex.  It was hard, it was heartbreaking, I thought I was going to die. Ladies come on you know that “one” true love always hurts the most.

Moving along.. being young is fun.  No responsibility, no attachments, no kids, and you live free to do whatever he hell you want. I miss those days.  Not because I hate my life now because I live a happy life.  My life is exactly what I have always wanted, but me and my husband sit and talk sometimes about the past about our lives before and how we miss not having responsibilities.

You know though, I wont lie and you tell me if I am right. Kids are rough. Kids are tough and being a parent is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do, along with being a wife. Its not all cookies and cream, its all hard work. It takes dedication, It takes communication, it takes falling down and getting back up.

Its the hardest most amazing thing i have ever done in my life and I do not regret one day. not one minute. not one fight. not one bad day because with all the heartaches theres more days of love, laughter, wrestling, giggles, cuddles, sex (can you ever have too much?, vacations, i love yous.

Jasandra now?

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Now… I am married to the love of my life. I have a beautiful daughter who I call my little “miracle.” I have my own health and fitness business helping women be the best version of themselves they can be, amazing supportive friends.  I take care of myself, workout, and teach my family that even though we live on a budget we can still live life the healthy way.  I am happy, healthy, loving, and a changed woman.  I go out with my ladies for out girls night, I go out with my husband on dates ( cant wait for ours tomorrow), we live a life of meaning, a life of support, a life to change the world.

Change is hard.Chard is tough.Change is challenging, but oh man when you aren’t happy with who you are and you make that commitment to change yourself for better… The reward is so much more fulfilling.

So yes..
People can change.
Don’t ever judge a book my its cover.
You don’t know where people come from.
There is always time to be a better version of yourself if you’re not happy.
Stop making excuses and go for it.
Life will happen.

 

Always, Jasandra
 

So many people, so many opinions.

The past month or so there has been so much going on. I know I am not the only one that experiences this, but you guys know, that it can weigh on us hard. I always try to be that person that doesn’t let others opinions of my life and what I do affect me, but sometimes you can’t avoid the inevitable.

A little over a year ago I decided to jump on the Beachbody train not knowing much about it. I knew some people who were coaches and it seemed to go well for them, but good lord I couldn’t afford those shakes, but I figured man, I have this passion for helping people, I will figure out a way. Just like your or I can figure out a way to make the thing we really want happen.  It aint easy, its hard as shit, but I believe it to be worth it.

During this time I have met many supportive and not supportive people.  Some that just get it and some that just will never get it.  A lot of times I have let the people who don’t get it make me not get it and that shit sucks. Because who the hell are you to  tell me I am a fraud, or tell me I suck and I’ll never amount to something that it’s just a scam!

How about a big old fuck you?!!?!? Or better yet, fuck me for not believing in myself enough to tell you to back off?!?!?

This past month has brought a lot of insight to my business and to myself. I have learned a lot about what I want and who I am and what I need to do to help millions of people become healthier and happier.

You know who I am?

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I am a Beachbody coach.  I am a health and fitness junkie.  I am a nerd.  I am a crossfitter. I am a runner. I am a mother.  I am a wife. I am a cook. I am funny.  I am a great friend.  I am a great person.  I am a lover. I am a dog and cat mom.  I am a motivator. I am a supporter. I am your cheerleader. I am loud. I don’t have a filter. I am insanely crazy.  I am me!

For a split second I lost myself, but I never left.

So whatever it is in this life you want to accomplish, others will talk, others will have opinions, but you will make the decision to do whatever the hell it is YOU want.

So go out there and do you boo, because while they are talking you’re being undefeated.