Who says you can’t?

7d425f356f22bc7a351dfb0d0b145b37--brave-quotes-new-quotes I think it took me about 2 hours to write this blog out… I still have no idea what the fuck I want to write about, but here I am… Because I can…  So lately I have found myself struggling with a few changes going on in my life which is why I have been pretty absent.

Let me ask you a question right now.  How many times have you been so excited to tell someone a goal you have, fo them to turn around and give you the stank eye with the whole “That is going to be hard. It’s going to take time.  You’ll need to be dedicated. You won’t have a life”. That shit hits you in the feels the moment you hear it and the doubts you didn’t have, start strolling in.  You start to question yourself.  You start to wonder if this goal is attainable.  You start to panic. I mean can you really accomplish all your goals? My answer to you is yes, but I’m going to be real for a quick second here.  Thats been me lately, the person that gets told its going to be so hard and I won’t achieve my goals… I’ve listened to the negative words people have said to me, and I’ve stepped back from my goals.

Yet here I am today, a day where I called in sick because I’ve been awake since 3am vomiting my heart away.  You know what I’ve done all day? Lay in bed and think. Think about my goals.  The accomplishments I have had.  Ive watched Sex and the City and resonated with some of the ladies because they too (tv show or not) can relate to my experiences. What that fuck have we been doing ladies?  We have been letting other people determine the outcome of OUR lives.  That shit needs to stop right now.  I know for a fact that I, plus many of you ladies have tons of goals.  A new job, a new relationship, a new house, to lose weight, to write a book, to open a blog, to open your own business… We all have those goals, but we need to stop being afraid of success.

not-caringWhy is success such a scary subject?  You know why? Because it’s not easy getting there and it comes with a lot of work, a lot of dedications, a lot of late night, a lot more work and a whole lot of less play.  Shit, I’m wiring this and thinking about all the little things I need to do for my coaching business.  I feel so lost, but these days there’s so many help and so many other people who won’t be negative about you wanting to succeed.  It’s not easy, but can you imagine if we never quit the first 500 times where we would be right now? Probably a lot closer to success then we currently are.

So who gives a fuck if you lose a few friends, who cares if you have to stay in longer, who cares if people tell you its going to be hard… Prove them wrong.. Better yet Prove yourself wrong and soar babe.

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Treat. Yo. Self.

Do not reward yourself with food, you’re not a dog-Unknown

The last few months I have been trying to kill it at the gym and at home with my meals.  Its been difficult to say the least, but in between working, being a mom, side hustling, trying to live a life, I have managed to drop about 7 lbs and I couldn’t be happier.

tumblr_nxczvmoq661uelehno1_400My friend mentioned to me that she was possibly going to buy herself a new purse (I believe that is what it was) when she hit a new goal with her fitness, which made me stop and think about a goal I would want to achieve and a reward I would give myself. Have you ever done this? Sounds super fun and challenging which is always good.

Usually I set a goal and then I am like “Woohoo, I didn’t cheat this week, let me kill my diet during the weekend, with alcohol and a cheat meal in celebration,” and the next thing you know I have gained all the weight back and all my hard work has gone out the window.

So here with my followers I am going to set a goal and a reward for the month.

Come March, since February is practically over my goals will be as follows:

1.  Make it to the gym at least 3-4 days each week.
2. Eat low carb each week and drink 8 glasses of water a day.
3. I currently weight 176 & would like by the end of the month to at least be 170.

This seem like a lot to accomplish in a month, did you think I would make it super easy for myself? Ya’ll should know by now I love a challenge.

My re28bf206ada490688cac82e81e1966a37ward you ask?

A new pair of my favorite Ray Ban Sunglasses that I have been eyeing for a few months now.  If I don’t reach all 5 of my goals by the end of the month then I will have to try again the following month, but if I hit at least 4 out of 5, I will take myself out for a massage or a mani/pedi.

Have you ever used a reward system for your goals? What did you buy? What were your goals for the month?

Whos joining me?

Always, Jasandra

Don’t hide the madness that is you. Live authentically true to yourself.

“ Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide the madness.”– Allen Ginsberg

As I sit here this evening looking towards the future, I find my mind wandering back to my past and it makes me happy to see how far I have come in my 32 years of life.  You see growing up wasn’t always the easiest.  My whole life I have been known as the girl with the scabs on her legs, the girl who was overweight, the girl who wasn’t popular, and the girl who would never amount to anything.  These were all the things I was called during my school days. which don’t get me wrong, it fucken sucked, but it also shaped me to be who I am today.

67feb52b2af25ce2de6ba172679de7cdI have always been the kind of girl who played my own beat to my own my music and a lot of people dislike that. My family hated it.  They wanted me to be different. Skinnier, more by the books, you know.. Well guess what I am not that person and it has taken me a very long time to realize and accept that and guess what I am happy with who I am today January 2nd, 2017!

Even this past weekend when I was in Miami my grandmother called me “fat.” It truly never changes when I visit, but this time it got me right in the feels (could have been some of the red wine I had that didn’t help.) Not because it hurt me, but because that is when I realized that some people suck and that when I look in the mirror I see someone smart and beautiful and its a shame some people don’t see that too and define me by how I look or don’t look. Not to mention that in the past year I have lost over 40 pounds.

It has taken me many years, many self-help books, and many chats with myself to be the strong woman I am today. I roll with the punches.  If I am not happy, I will go find happiness. That goes for a job, my relationships, my friendships and truly anything in my life.   I am loud.  I am bonkers.  I curse like a sailor. I don’t have a filter.  I am honest to the core which sometimes sucks, but I am real and I will never change that.  If you hurt me, I will tell you.  If I like you, I will tell you.  If I fall in love with you, I will tell you.  If I am not happy, I will tell you.  If I hate my job, I will find another one.  If you don’t make time for me, I wont make time for you, but with that I am also the kindest, most loving, most loyal, most caring person you will ever meet.

diva2.gifWith this I tell you… Keep being yourself. Don’t ever change for anyone because you are the only you there needs to be. Some people will not be your cup of tea and vice versa and guess what? That is totally okay. Stand up for yourself. Don’t let anyone bully you or talk to you in a manner that is disrespectful to you.  Don’t let anyone treat you less than you deserve and always follow your dreams.  Fight for you and fight for what you believe in and always, but ALWAYS dance to the beat of your own drum.

Always, Jasandra